[This is the final part of Preparation a 4 part story. You may want to read Part 1, Part 2 and Part 3 before you continue.]

As the taxi pulled away from the bistro I thought about how I sometimes can really surprise myself. I used to think about how I was too eager to please others. It used to worry me. Over time I realised that pleasing others pleased me, and that in many ways that's all there was to life.

Today I realised, finally, that all encounters, all conversations, are a two way street. You wouldn't drink neat gin, you wouldn't drink neat tonic but together they make something beautiful. They come together to create something better than either of them can be by themselves. I wanted to be nice to Brian, I suddenly realised, not because it wouldn't help me but because it would. That's what we're all doing.

It's only a problem when you stop taking part yourself. When it stops making you feel better to take part in the exchange - that's the only time it's a problem God! Stop thinking! And you think this sounds like crazy over-analysis? You should hear my brain in an hour.

I'm in this taxi, it's going to my house. My house with my family in it. My family who are there for Christmas. Who are there to enjoy themselves.

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And I'm bringing Brian to have dinner with me. How's that for making myself feel happy?

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[This is part 3 of Preparation a 4 part story. You may want to read Part 1 and Part 2 before you continue.]

The question, "how many women?" I'd asked was hanging over the proceedings like a bad stink. Brian had frozen, he'd been freed for a second into saying something that he clearly truly felt. Something actually fucking interesting. Sorry about my language - but that's what I feel. My contemporaries act as though it's proper decorum to pretend you died about five years ago.

"Sorry Brian, I didn't mean that question the way that you're thinking that I did."
"What does that mean?"
"I just meant…" I pause, I'm trying to decide how to phrase it. "I just meant, huh."
"I'm sorry if I offended you."
"Oh no, God no… I just was just thinking that I wanted to pause the date, because… While I realise I'm on a date and I'm therefore supposed to disapprove of you going out with others, I'm old enough and wise enough to realise that you must be, and that I'm not the only one. I'm not moronic. There are a lot more single women of my age than men. But what you were saying just made me feel like one of the blokes down the pub for a second. I imagined all of the twittery women I know who are so totally clueless. And for a second I just wanted to laugh at them with you. That’s all."
"Well that’s okay then."

Brian, I could tell, was looking at me differently. I wonder what that meant. And then suddenly I didn't know what to do. Could I go on eating, or did I need to talk? I knew I was really waiting for him to talk again but I didn't know where to look or what to do while I was waiting. I decided to plump for a overly large glug of my wine so I could keep looking him in the eye. He looked flustered, I was flustered too I could feel the tops of my ears starting to go red. And then I decided to help him.

"You know what Bri, lets order us up some more wine - I'll get a taxi home."

"Good," he smiled that smile again. And he actually exhaled. It was so sweet. I wanted to hug him right there and then.

I smiled back at him and suddenly we were a team. We were on the same side against the rest, whoever they might be.

[The final part concludes next Friday]

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Last night I dreamt of mandarins again. I know I'm worrying about the meal. Why do I put myself through it? Twenty people for Christmas lunch. I used to think it was for the kids so they would grow up seeing their family. And lately I've convinced myself that I'm doing it for Bob. He always used to love Christmas. I wonder how many times I'll have to say it before I can forget him making the kids put all of the presents back under the tree because they were being too noisy.

No, I might as well admit that I do it for me. We never had fun at Christmas when I was a girl and I suppose I'm making up for it. Sometimes I do wonder when this fun is supposed to happen. I mean before you've served up, you're cooking like crazy. During the meal you're worrying about pudding. During pudding you're trying to stop Malcolm setting fire to the napkins or Uncle Paul from getting too carried away with the brandy butter. And afterwards there's the washing up.

Paul isn't my uncle he's my brother. I wonder when I started calling him that as though it was his name or his title? I guess it was around the time I started talking to the kids more than I spoke to adults. Just when I thought I was about clear, I now seem to spend quite a bit of my time in the company of the grandchildren.

I do know the part of Christmas I love most. It's not watching the kids unwrap the presents. There is too often disappointment in some of their faces. I knew we were spoiling them when they were little but I didn't see what harm it would do. Now I know they expected bigger and better presents every year, so now probably anything less than the
keys to an actual rocket ship is a bit of a let down. So no it isn't that. It's sneaking about the night before helping Santa fill the stockings. See there I go again, I've clearly been spending too much time with the grandchildren.

Now. It's time to get out of bed. I've got a busy day today. I'm having lunch with a man. God, that sounds more exciting than it probably will be.

I had Simon on the phone last night giving me dating tips. As if he knows anything about it. He's never even had a girlfriend. Well I suppose he still dates even though he thinks he can't tell me about it. Right, must get up.

[Tune in next Friday for part 2]

Labels: Fiction, Long, Preparation